I did an istikhara to see whether my life and future is with my husband. I am a 1st wife and he has done many hurtful things to me and still does. He lives with family and 2nd wife and doesn’t give me time or money. I look after a child he had with a Muslim woman behind my back and this is why he’s with me I believe because no one really wants that child. I dreamt that his father was in my house and he was trying to dissemble my clothes cupboards and I told him not to. I know he’s not treating me right and wants both wives together often in my home and parents home. If I leave I don’t get anything financially but have worked during marriage. Our families do not speak and he uses this as a weapon. Please pray for me.
wa `alaykum salam,
You have rights which are not being respected by this man. You need to weigh the personal consequences of staying versus leaving and the impact either choice will have on all parties. If it is still unclear to you what to do pray istikhara again and follow what comes to your heart. You may recite “HasbunAllahu wa ni’am al- Wakeel” 100 times daily for spiritual support.