I was physically abused by my father where he would beat me over trivial matters. I always respected my parents and I have always been an obedient daughter. Now a mother & still visit my parents out of respect. Recently my younger brother in their household been abusive, aggressive & shouted vulgar words at me, he had beat me & when my father arrived instead of protecting me he too attempted to beat me & in haste I called the police in fear for my life. My husband refuses to go there because of their behaviour. My own parents abuse me & I do not want to be disrespectful. Now my family will have nothing to do with me as I have called the police, my husband has forbidden me to take our children there but hasn’t forbidden me. Please advise what I shall do now?
wa `alaykum salam,
Trust and obey your husband, as he, you and your children are your priorities in your worldly life, not your parents; but keep respect and love for the latter in your heart. Some of the Sahaba had to face death, torture, curses and defamation at the hands of their parents or relatives but they kept serene and respected kinship, so that in the end they won many of them over. Pray for the mending of this situation by reciting Ya Jabbar Ya Karim 100 times daily.
Hajj Gibril Haddad