Forgiveness

Question:

786 Aslamu alaykum
I converted to Islam a few years back. My sister has tried to be interested in Islam but never wanted to understand it. She say it’s black magic and speaks REALLY badly of ALLAH SWT (astagfrular) it breaks my heart…  At the moment we don’t speak because she weakens my faith. I know ALLAH SWT says show forgiveness. InshALLAH I try in my heart and it’s so hard, I don’t want my sister to be punished on the Day of Judgment for what her tongue speaks. How can I forgive her am scared that she’s pulling me away from ALLAH Swt.

Answer:

`Alaykum as-Salam,

Many Companions faced identical situations in the beginning of Islam and Allah Most High reassured them and gave them solace in many verses. You are not responsible for what she says:

وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ۬ وِزۡرَ أُخۡرَىٰۚ وَإِن تَدۡعُ مُثۡقَلَةٌ إِلَىٰ حِمۡلِهَا لَا يُحۡمَلۡ مِنۡهُ شَىۡءٌ۬ وَلَوۡ كَانَ ذَا قُرۡبَىٰٓۗ إِنَّمَا تُنذِرُ ٱلَّذِينَ يَخۡشَوۡنَ رَبَّہُم بِٱلۡغَيۡبِ وَأَقَامُواْ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَۚ وَمَن تَزَكَّىٰ فَإِنَّمَا يَتَزَكَّىٰ لِنَفۡسِهِۚۦ وَإِلَى ٱللَّهِ ٱلۡمَصِيرُ

{Nor can a bearer of burdens bear another’s burden. If one heavily laden should call another to (bear) his load, not the least portion of it can be carried (by the other) even though he be nearly related. Thou canst but admonish such as fear their Lord unseen and establish regular Prayer and whoever purifies himself does so for the benefit of his own soul; and the destination (of all) is to Allah.} Surat al-Fatir 35:18

You are right not to speak with her until your faith is stronger. At that time you can benefit her from near and far insha-Allah; but for now, make du`a for her from a safe distance. The pattern of such a situation is mentioned in the Qur’an:

وَقَدۡ نَزَّلَ عَلَيۡڪُمۡ فِى ٱلۡكِتَـٰبِ أَنۡ إِذَا سَمِعۡتُمۡ ءَايَـٰتِ ٱللَّهِ يُكۡفَرُ بِہَا وَيُسۡتَہۡزَأُ بِہَا فَلَا تَقۡعُدُواْ مَعَهُمۡ حَتَّىٰ يَخُوضُواْ فِى حَدِيثٍ غَيۡرِهِۦۤ‌ۚ إِنَّكُمۡ إِذً۬ا مِّثۡلُهُمۡ‌ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ جَامِعُ ٱلۡمُنَـٰفِقِينَ وَٱلۡكَـٰفِرِينَ فِى جَهَنَّمَ جَمِيعًا

{He has revealed this to you in the Book, that when you hear the signs of Allah rejected and mocked, then sit you not down with them until they turn to another topic, for
verily, then you would be like them} Surat an-Nisa’ 4:140

وَعِبَادُ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلَّذِينَ يَمۡشُونَ عَلَى ٱلۡأَرۡضِ هَوۡنً۬ا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ ٱلۡجَـٰهِلُونَ قَالُواْ سَلَـٰمً۬ا

{And the servants of (Allah) Most Gracious are those who walk on the earth in humility, and when the ignorant address them, they say “Peace!”} Surat al-Furqan 25:63

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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