Salaam ya Mashaykh,

My wife and I argue with each other from the first time we married until now (almost 7 years). Sometime we have beautiful moments with our 2 children. My wife asks a divorce every time we fight/argue. She always insult me and disparages me.

I don’t want a divorce as I thought about my kids.

Now She went back to her parent’s house while I’m working at the office and brought my 2 kids.

What should I do, yaa Mashaykh?

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said the strong person is the one who controls his anger. Recite ya Haleem x100 daily and ya Wadud x100 daily for more love and peace in the family.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

As salamu aleykum wa rahmatoula wa barakatouhou,

May Allah grant long life to Mawlana Sheikh Nazim and Mawlana Sheikh Hisham and all your Family.

My wife is pregnant and will give birth in August, inshallah. I ask for prayer from Mawlana Sheikh Nazim and Mawlana Sheikh Hisham and all blessed by Allah swt, with your blessing prayer that my wife and baby are given the health, safety, protection of Allah swt in spiritual and physical.

I beg to Mawlana Sheikh Nazim to provide the best name for my daughter or son.

I hope with that name my child be sholeh, love to Allah, love of the Prophet Muhammed (saw) and his family, and love to Awliya Allah swt.

Thank you very much.

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

Amin.

Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (Allah bless his secret) and Mawlana Shaykh Hisham are praying for you and family. You may recite Surat al Balad x7 daily for easy delivery in sha Allah. You may name the child Muhammad Zakiuddin or Nur Fatimah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Lately after a prostate biopsy doctor’s told me I am having cancer of the prostate.

He gave me 2 options that is radiation treatment or surgery. Both have its pros and cons.

I have decided on surgery but it all depends on my general health as I have undergone a heart by-pass operation a few years ago plus having asthma, mascular wasting etc.

A decision will be made after a thorough medical examination in a month or two.

Please pray to ALLAH swt for a complete and speedy recovery. Insya ALLAH.

Wassalam.

Response:

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Asalamu Alaykum,

I have come from a Buddhist background. I have studied Buddhism very deeply and was even a monk for a time.

We are a consciousness within a housing of matter. Highly spiritual people have the phenomenon of physicality to become almost ‘matter less’, in fact Aisha was asked about the Holy Prophet PBUH and she mentions that his body was “as light”.

I have met people who say they remember previous lives, I have met Tibetan Lamas who are reincarnations.

So, my problem is, can this be explained within Islam? We are ultimately light not matter. Even within Buddhism this is rarely as a self less act. Why would a consciousness stay in the grave?

I hope you can help me with this, it’s really my last hurdle.

Yours,

Salaams

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Matter is neither the origin nor the end in Islam, and our pristine creation is indeed from light. Read my book “The Muhammadan Light” which is dedicated to Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (Allah bless his secret) and his deputy Mawlana Shaykh Hisham (Allah bless his secret).

Hajj Gibril Haddad

I want to know about ishq, mohabbat/love between:

1# Allah and human;
2# Jinn and human;
3# human and human.

What is love? Why it happens? Is it between ruh and ruh or between body and body?

Answer:

Read the chapter on love in the books Futuwwa by al Sulami and Risala
by Qushayri.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Asalamulaikum,

I wanted to know what is the correct belief of appointing a khalifah?

Is there a hierarchy system meaning that not any one can be appointed, only those of the bloodline of the Prophet (saw)? Are royal families acceptable in Islam (since all I see is that this causes a big gap between the wealthy and poor). In Islam, are we all classed equal as brothers and sister and not divided by tribes, caste systems and certain family lineages? Since Abu Bakr (ra) was elected by people and Umar (ra) was appointed by Abu bakr (ra), does that been both ways of becoming khalifah were the best ways? I don’t understand why we had khalifahs in the past only because there fathers were khalifahs (sultanate) such as in the Ottoman Empire?

Could you please clarify.

Jazakallah khair

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

The khilafa rashida (first four plus al-Hasan, ‘Umar b. Abd al-Aziz
and Mu’awiya b. Yazid) were truly well-guided caliphates after the
Prophetic model, and a few rare other ones. As for the rest they were
only relatively good because they were degraded models but better than
what came later, and the latter was still better than nothing.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Assalam alaikum Shaykh,

The voices I hear initiated from gossip and now I only hear them speaking in my ears and seeing images with my eyes closed (if I concentrate on them). I go to the toilet often on myself and feel  skin turning into snake scales. I have dreams of falling from the top of some place or having an affair with someone and wake up dry in the private part. Please I think they’re jinns and I need prayers from a shaykh and prayers to read on myself.

Shukran

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you. Recite last three Suras 1st
thing in the day and last thing at night. Say La ilaha illa Allah
frequently and make Salawat.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Dear Shaykh,

I am a married woman who loves my husband dearly. However, I still find myself thinking and fantasizing about other men. I know this is completely wrong. What can I do to stop this?

Also, when we are engaging in sexual intercourse, it is difficult for me to be in the ‘moment’. Sometimes I have to think about another man which I know is very wrong.

What can I do?

I have recited plenty of ‘Ya Wadud’.

Please advise.

Answer:

Fill your thoughts with dhikr and they will lift you upwards in sha
Allah. Think of Allah and His gift through your husband, you will be
in the moment.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Asalam Shaykh Hisham al-Kabbani,

I would like to ask you if you know how I can gain ilm gaib and other divine knowledge. Please tell me the durood Allah SWT recites upon Rasulallah S.A.W.W and please tell us the ism e azam.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

The answers to these come through assiduous Rabita and Suhba. Keep
them and you will be fulfilled in sha Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Asslamualaikam,

I suffer from anxiety whilst driving and can almost feel myself having a breakdown. Can you tell me something to pray or suggest a solution as without me driving I am holding myself quite a bit.

Allah hafiz

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

Before driving say “Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim, I say on myself a
million tawakkaltu ‘ala Allah, la hawla wa la quwwat illa billah al
‘ali al azheem in front of me, behind me, to my right, to my left,
above me and below me.” Then drive and trust in Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad