Request:
asamuaikum Shaykh
What am I to expect of my mother, she lives 1 hour drive away. How often should a mother who is well visit/stay over her daughter’s in a year. We didn’t bond with her properly, she was very difficult(to say the least – hope you understand) in our childhood plus is less so now, but we have need for a mother. Still we cannot change her so we have to make the most of what we have. I visit her, but I’d like her to visit more. She’s always making excuses. She doesn’t visit my sister, even when she is ill, but lives 4 hours drive away. She has great bonding with others. Is she ever going to become loving/motherly/intimate with us or should we sisters give up? I’m the eldest, late 30s. If so please pray we have no need for her any more. Life has passed by due to her. We sisters haven’t bonded and it affects our parenting role.
Response:
I made du`a for you and your sisters to be on the right path and Allah to make you and your mother compassionate to each other. You must visit her at least once a week and also keep in touch with her during the week on a daily basis. When your mother is happy with you, Allah is happy with you. You must do everything to please her and make her happy with you. You owe your existance to her.
Hajjah Naziha Adil
