I am from Malaysia, and have been interested in joining a sufi order. I asked around about this matter to those who seem to have knowledge regarding it, but I failed miserably. One told me that I need to find a guru, but did not give me any clear directions on how to find a guru. Another told me that I cannot choose my tariqat, and my friend told me that the guru will decide which tariqat I must follow. Please enlighten me about this matter. I have been searching for sometime, but have not found any guru, even though I attend many Tasawwuf classes, but the gurus are all male, and because of the strict gender segregation, I don’t know how to approach the teachers of the class
wa ‘alaykum salam,
I recommend you take baya` (initiation) to Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Nazim al-Haqqani through the online baya`. Then you may be in touch with Mawlana’s representatives in Malaysia. They have no problem to speak with a woman for the purpose of guidance.