Request:
Assalomoalikum Mashaikh!
I’ve been married over 5 years and like any other marriage there has been ups and downs. Recently after a quarrel about something small my wife cried and said she wanted a divorce. I said I cannot give her a divorce because I love her and my children. She wants more help from me in household chores and help with the kids.I also have a side business that takes up a lot of time. I agreed to help her at home as much as I can. I am trying to help at home after many long hrs at work and a long drive back home. She has not brought up this topic again but I’m very hurt. I don’t want our marriage to end. I have kids that I love very much and will do anything to save this marriage. I was shocked to know that divorce was an option for her! What should I do? Please request MSH to pray for our marriage.
Response:
`Alaykum Salam,
Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you. Try to show more tenderness so she feels she is beloved. See if you can hire a day helper to shoulder her in her chores so that you two have more quiet time to yourselves. A wife is not required to clean and cook, it is only a courtesy to her husband.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
