Request:
Aoa, I’m a [private] Muslim female living in USA with family. A few years ago there was a boy who fell in love with me. I liked him too but my mom refused, he was not Syed. Then in 2011 I got nikkah done w/Syed my mom’s choice….Due to financial/family situation he still there. We do occasionally talk to each other, but this other boy came back in my life claiming all the love in the world and crying everymoment that he cant live without me he will die. I’m very confused on what to do. He is threatening to kill himself if I continue to marry the other guy. I’m still in the process of green card for my husband and that is not going anywhere either…Please tell me how to handle the situation. I don’t want to leave my husband as it will destroy mom’s reputation, but I’m also leaning towards the other guy.
Response:
Suicidal possessiveness is from shaytan while trust and patience is from Allah and will ensure a long-lasting and prosperous marriage. Syeds are from the tree of pure light which brings gifts that are not for just everyone. The Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) guaranteed that you would find the Divine good pleasure inside the good pleasure of parents. So bank on that and pay no attention to the
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