Question:
My parent are making excuses for over a year to accept the marriage proposal. All they came up with is that he is too short, he has darker skin color. He is still waiting for me i dont want to hurt my parents feeling by doing a silly thing (eloped).
Answer:
Continue with loving patience and mention to them his seriousness and good qualities. In sha Allah they will come around. Buy them a beautiful book and write on the blank cover page a loving dedication to them. You may include one or both of these hadiths if you wish:
The delegation of `Abd al-Qays arrived in Medina from Bahrain. The Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) called them “among the best of the people of the earth.” Their leader was a diminutive man (rajulun damim). The Prophet said to him, “There are two traits in you which Allah loves: forbearance (ḥilm) and equanimity (anāt).” He said: “Is it something that happened over time or was I created thus?” The Prophet said: “No, you were created thus” (Ahmad, Muslim, Abu Dawud).
One day Abu Dharr (may Allah be well-pleased with him) got angry with Bilal (may Allah be well-pleased with him) and said to him: “You son of a black woman!” The Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) heard of it and said to Abu Dharr, “Are you shaming Bilal through his mother? I swear by the One Who revealed the Book to Muhammad, none of you is better than the other except through good deeds. All of you fall short of the full measure” (Ibn al-Mubarak, al-Birr wal-Sila).
Hajj Gibril Haddad
