Question:
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,
I have two questions:
Is there any special dua/dhikr a wife can make to become more beautiful in her husbands eyes (if she’s physically already beautifying herself as much as she can for him) so his eyes would stray less?
I love my husband very much and am very jealous over him. He’s not opposed to the idea of multiple marriages, and neither am I as it is a part of Islam. I can calm my ego in regard to the hooris in Jannat, knowing that Allah will make my beauty such that I would by far outshine all of them and there will be no reason for jealousy. But what if my husband marries again, won’t he be married to the same earthly believing women in Jannat, and won’t each one be equally beautiful or at least comparable? How can I think of it in a way to calm me down? If I have to accept jealousy in this life, I can calm myself with the idea of being the only one in jannat, but if I’m not the only one in jannat (even knowing that all jealousy would be removed from my heart then), it becomes a much less motivating idea, maybe even demotivating, Astaghfirullah…what is the best way to think about it in a way that my earthly weak ego would be calmed, because in moments of weakness “Oh, but you would be free of all jealousy then and you won’t mind sharing your husband in Jannat” really just doesn’t work…I’m at a point of desperation where I’m thinking the solution would be to try to love my husband less, so as not to have to battle the issue of jealousy in this life or the next…I know I should concentrate on my love for Allah ta’ala and Deen, but feel my ego needs to be calmed too…
Salam
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Jealousy is from Shaytan, waswasa from shaytan makes you think this way, and creates problems with your husband. For protection do Salawat 100-1000x,Ya Haleem 100 x, Ya Saboor 100 x every day. And you know what attracts your husband, so just do it.
Hajjah Naziha
