Question:
as salamu alaikum dearest sheikh hisham,
i ‘m quite desperate., you married us.the truth is we have arguments, all the time. he’s always trying to change me and calls me childish, i think he has a problem with my age [private] he wants me to change my personality
he’s getting more aggressive ,last quarrel he came running and said he’d hit me. i don’t think he would but it scares me. i yell at him and get angry also. should we go on? is this work for my ego? is this what mawlana wants? if so, I stay and be patient. i just feel sad, scared, do i recite something?. please shaikh, answer to me,should i stay or should we separate. is also difficult…and i couldn’t go make zikr if we separate. please answer Shaikh
as salamu alaikum
Answer:
Alaykum as-Salam,
The Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said to women that husbands are their gateways to paradise hence be sure it is a test and that paradise does not come cheap. Of course this is what Mawlana wants and of course you should be patient and stay. Do not be sad or scared and do not argue but let your transaction be with Allah Most High, invoke him by the Name Ya Haleem x100 every morning.
