Question:
We are married more then 5 years, my husband he does not take any of my responsibility of any kind. He is taking responsibility of his brother, his family (3 kids and wife and his brother) his sister, they all married. But he is not doing any thing for me.
I saw a dream one day where I was crying in my dream and begging that lady’s not to take light from me. But they took the boll of light from my stomach. I can’t move my self just crying . The women and I was wearing white clothes. What does that dream mean?
Answer:
As salaamu alaikum, wa rahmatuLlahi t’ala wa barakatu!
Aoodhu biLlahi min ash-shaytani ‘r-rajeem, BismiLlahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Raheem.
Wa salatu wa salaamu `ala Sayyidina Muhammad, wa `ala alihi wa sahbihi ajma`een.
I’m answering you as I would answer myself, inshaAllah.
First the dream: If a child is sick, and the parents have to take him or her to the doctor, what will that child do? He will cry, she will cry, “no, no, no!” But the parents know that even though their child doesn’t like it, the doctor’s treatment is necessary. And the doctors also are experienced, and do their job regardless of the child’s cries. Like that, we have spiritual ailments that sometimes require a heavenly treatment. Our egos are like children, and will cry and protest, but the Lord has angels who do their jobs and never flinch. Perhaps a difficulty was taken from you through that dream, though, like a bad habit, you didn’t want to let go of it. Say, “Alhamdulillah!”
As for your second point, about your husband: Maulana Shaykh used to advise like this: “O husbands! Take your rights from Allah, not from your wives!” And, “O wives! Take your rights from Allah, not from your husbands!” Understand? Say, “Alhamdulillah,” even in difficulties, and Allah will turn difficulties into blessings. Say, “ShukruliLlah,” Allah will keep favors and blessings from being lost. Say, “AstagfiruLlah,” and Allah will take us out of problems that might be our own fault.
This is my advice to you, and my advice to myself. May Allah forgive us and open our ways to heavens! Shukran wa salaam.
Abdul Haqq
