Question:
Salaam Ya Hazrat Kabbani. I am grateful & thankful for the replies I’ve got from here. Please help me in this serious matter. It’s been 7 years, it’s hectic for me. I suffer from mental disturbance and high depression. I am unable to expain in 1 single message, so I need to send two parts. I am really fed up of my mother’s relation (almost haram, as I’ve noticed & seen) with his so called brother. I know its unbelievable but misunderstandings never happen again & again. Accidentally, I’ve seen both coming out of the same room. Once, I was standing in front of my house knocking, nobody came out. I called my mother, she said she’s in market. I said I am in front of house. In hurry she came out, opened the door and I saw her hiding the slippers of that man. I was so shocked, but didnt utter a word. Many things happend like this. I cant tell how broken I am from inside. I know command of RasoolAllah (salatussalaam) that mother comes first, three times before father, every child should obey his/her parents come what may. (Astaghfirullah).
I just want my mother’s Duniya and Akhirah blessed. It’s really hard for me to be quiet. I’ve been patient since so long and its affecting my behavior. I try to love her and respect her for the sake of command of Beloved RasoolAllah (Salatussalaam)(mother comes first, heaven lies under her feet) but now it’s really getting very hard for me. A girl’s best friend is her mother, but I dont feel like so. I liked a guy, he also liked me. I knew his intention of marrying me, I want to get marry to him, but out of all this problems I was unable to share this thing with mom. Since I took such a long time he got annoyed and situation got worst. Also my family is undergoing financial problems. And,that man (so called brother) is going to umrah with his family. I cant understand inspite of all this Allah chose him for umrah. I am so frustrated that I cant express. Please pray and tell me how to get out of this problem.
May Allah Bless u.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you and your family. Your best help to your mother is to continue to love and respect her with duas for her well-being in dunya and akhira. If she asks for your advice tell her that haram acts spell the end of blessings in one’s life and home, and that making things right is the only way to real happiness. Recite “Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi, Subhan Allah al-Azhim, Astaghfirullah” every morning x100 to the intention of protection and lifting financial burdens.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
