Question:
the brother of my potential wife, living in Dubai, want me to work with him, but instead of paying salary he want to give me a house and everything I need, but I feel I wont be independent like that. A friend has friends living in Dubai and Habib Ali Al-Jifri is his Sheikh
and he could tell him about me. I could try to find work in Damascus, but it could be difficult to find work! Should I stay in Damascus or should I go to Dubai or should I go to a third country/place to whom could I go, whom could I connect?
How could I break the habit to gaze at women? it coul bring me into problems with my wife after marriage!
How could I use the time with my wife after the marriage in an Islamic way and in general?
(besides reading Quran and dhikr)
Answer:
Dear brother, without a living murshid to guide you both physically and through your soul connection, you will always be having excessive questions and concerns. When you take the hand of a living waliullah your questions will subside, life’s issues will become clear and you will enjoy peace and tranquility of heart, insha-Allah.
As to looking at ladies, marriage will reduce that, and make istighfar for whatever looking you do, beyond the first glance.
And Allah knows best,
Taher Siddiqui
