Question:
Salam Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani,
I am in a state of being depressed because of my in-laws. I am staying with them at the moment & I have one child with me. My mother-in-law often tries to intrude in my issues especially when it comes to my child. I fight with my husband all the time because of this. I become depressed and my husband is distant from me. I feel like giving up on my marriage because if her. I can’t take the stress anymore as I’ve been patient though for 2 years now Shaykh. I really feel like walking away from my marriage. What should I do Shaykh? Is my mother-in-law trying to separate me & my husband? I will be happy only if I have my own place as there won’t be any intrusion in my life. What should I do Ya Sayiddi?
Salam alaik.
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Insha-Allah Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani is praying for you.
Shaykh Hisham has explained many times that once a couple is married, it is not good for them to stay with in-laws. A separate marital home is a must for the marriage to be in peace, especially when there are children. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your mother-in-law, or that she doesn’t love you, or she is trying to separate you from your husband, but being in constant contact, that love cannot blossom.
Recite Ya Halim 100x daily and Ya Samad 500x to keep calm and avoid anger.
And Allah knows best,
Taher Siddiqui
