Question:
Assalamoalikum
Dear Shaykh finally after Allah blessed me with a son I have a job offer from another country. I have talked with my mother and wife they are happy. The only problem is my father unfortunately he is the kind of father who just don’t want his kids to grow up. I know if will ask his permission he will never allow it; he will say stay home etc. My question is if it is ok if I hide it from my father for sometime until my visa and everything gets processed and once inshAllah I will be in that country only I will tell my father that now I have come here for better future and make dua for me etc. Because dear Shaykh its been so many years out of obedience I have missed many opportunities but now I am also a father of a kid who is my responsibility to provide food and needs to him for that purpose this time I have to take strong decision. Am I sinful for taking this bold decision and hiding it from my father?
Please please please reply what does Shariah says in this matter .
Answer:
Waalaikumussalam.
Your son and job offer are only through your father’s blessing. Allah’s blessing in inside that blessing. “The rida [good pleasure] of Allah is in the rida of parents” (hadith). They are inseparable. Also you have not missed any opportunities. “To say ‘If only’ is from shaytan” (Hadith). Process it but keep trust with your father and ask for his duaa in the genuine way. I.e. before leaving. And keep trust with Allah’s qada and qadar past and future no matter what.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
