Question:
I live with my mother-in-law who is old and not in best of health. I do everything for her and if her children come to see her I have to host them. I am very unhappy with my situation at home and it is making me very upset, sad and depressed. She has 9 other children but no one really helps. Do the girls have to help or once married they don’t have to. I have 4 kids of my own to try and look after and get angry with a lot with them as I am so stressed. Its affecting my marriage. What do I do? If I moved out she would be by herself and I will be wrong for doing so. And she and everyone else will start to curse me. How can I make this situation work. Please pray for me MSH. Thank you. Sorry if I have said anything wrong.
Answer:
Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you. You carry the burden of others even when you don’t have to, so your reward is greater and Allah is the best help. Trust in Him and do not be sad or stressed as this test will pass soon in sha Allah. Recite the Fatiha in your heart or out loud whenever facing difficulties. Divine support and blessing cancels out the curses of all creation put together and bring only success. Speak to your husband and let him know that it is his obligation to provide you your own private space, that you need strength to raise your children, and that you are helping his mother out of the goodness of your heart and because you love him, not because you have to. Their number does not matter, as it may be that your help is better and more true than the help of all her children put together. Allah knows best.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
