Question:
Asalamo Alaykum.3 months ago I was fortunate enough to have my Nikkah blessed by Shaykh Hisham in Cyprus (Alhumdolillah). My wife [private] has been raised by an English mother the English way. I am finding it extremely difficult to trust her as she lied when were first together as she was still with her ex and has many photos with her ex partners. She has a habit of wearing very revealing clothes and having a very friendly relationships with other men, I find this very difficult to accept. What can I do or pray to trust her? She is refusing to change her ways and has often suggested we go our separate ways. I love her though my anger (astagferullah) and pain gets the better of me. Please can u give me some prayers to help me trust her and be patient through this test please?
A.S. wrb
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
You have to come to terms which you can both agree upon. Marriage means being faithful to each other so, if that is broken the marriage will fail. Explain this and have a discussion of what behavior you expect of her and what behavior she expects of you, in that regard. If you present the other viewpoint, ie if you were to flirt with other women, she will begin to understand your jealousy. Then if the rules you mutually agree to continue to be broken that is a sign that there is no intent to keep the bounds and it is time to think of moving on.
Taher Siddiqui
