Question:
Assalaamu alaikum,
I received a proposal from a brother I was happy to accept. However, my family did not consent due to his cultural background. I prayed istikhara and was intent on accepting the proposal. Due to family pressure I had to reject the proposal but I really hope and pray I marry the brother as he had a good character and I feel my family was wrong to reject him based on his cultural background. Even though the proposal has been rejected by my family I feel I want to marry this brother. I am not in contact with him or in any kind of relationship.
I am praying to Allah S.W.T to guide me to that which is good for me. Is there a particular dua I can make?
JazakAllah
Answer:
Wa`alaikumussalam,
Mix-cultural marriages may cause cultural tensions that some families wish to avoid. If you really believe he is your choice, you should explain to your parents about this man’s qualities – in a gentle, polite and assuring way. You may need to discuss this matter with them over time, but be a good child to them and avoid conflicts. Recite Astaghfirullah al-‘Azheem 100-300x daily to remove all obstacles to get married, and Hasbunallah wa ni’ma l-wakeel 100-300x daily, make du’a to Allah for an opening.
Abdul Shakur
