Question:
As salamu Alaykum,
I’m 38, converted, and not married yet because of very bad health conditions and the major part of the money I earn goes to help my mother that is widow and quite poor.
How can I get married if there’s not enough money left to build a family with children? Every woman with Muslim backgrounds now in Occident wants money BEFORE spirituality. They give a major issue to comfort while religion is often left aside (even when they are covered).
Shall I maintain privilege to my mother or give priority to build up an Islamic family?
Thanks for your immense work,
Wa salem,
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Serve your mother since she is your door to Paradise, and ask Allah Most High by her blessing to let you find a suitable match as there are many Muslimas in the West who are not asking much, just a sincere and earnest husband.
The Holy Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said that (i) Allah made it incumbent on Himself to help out the man in search of marriage to protect his chastity (Nasa’i, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah); (ii) marriage brings its own rizq (Bazzar, Hakim, al-Khatib), and (ii) the most blessed marriages are those that have the lightest demands (Abu Dawud, Ibn Hibban, al-Hakim).
Hajj Gibril Haddad
