Question:
Salam,
It is with heavy heart and sadness that I am writing to you for guidance. My husband of 11 years is being emotionally and mentally abusive to me. He calls me names, shouts when we talk, is very controlling about who I see, where I go, often refusing me to speak or see anyone whom ever he chooses for me not to without valid reasons. He uses religion against me as weapon (eg “heavens not on your side, I will make dua to destroy you, a woman is supposed to please her husband to spiritually rise.) I feel very intimidated and controlled buy him. This has been getting progressively worse for 8 months. I’ve just had a baby and he has not been supportive and I’m estranged from my family due to his behaviour towards my family. Please help.
Answer:
Alaikumsalam. W.W.
A wife should be pleased with their husband and she has to respect whatever he likes or dislikes her to do. Make him happy even if she disagrees with him. Sacrifice yourself, your heart and your right for the sake of marriage and family. Be patient, make dua and recite 100 times Astaghfirullah, Ya Latif 129 times, and Salawat 100 times as often as possible every day as weapons to fight your negative feelings. Start creating peace and harmony. Insha Allah Allah will take care of your happiness and you will be on His side.
Hajah Faridah
