Question:
Salam Shakyh,
I’ve met an extraordinary choice for a zawj. I’d love to marry him when I’m 21. This man has helped me a lot in my taqwa, deen. I’m also humbled by how pious his family is and they have treated me very kindly. It’s very hard to convince my father but, Alhamdulillah, my father has given me time to explain my niyah (he insists to postpone the marriage at a later age after I work). I understand my financial instability but if I’m married at 21-my rizq only comes from Allah. I want to get married because the dunya is too pretentious therefore I want to chase Jannah. I’ve done my sunnahtul hajat, istikharah many times, ya Shaykh and Shokrulillah, I seemed to have confidence in my decision.
How am I to advise my father? Fi amanillah.
Please make dua for me and my suitor.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Allah Most High has made it the exclusive responsibility of husbands to support wives. Even if the wife is a millionaire she does not have to spend a penny of her property on herself or household, it is still the husband’s responsibility. Furthermore the Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said if a suitor proposes whose religious practice you approve of, do not turn him away. Therefore let your father accept this
gift from Allah and trust in His command and the command of His Prophet (upon him blessings and peace).
Hajj Gibril Haddad
