Question:
As-salaam alaikom,
My husband is not compatible with me I only married him because both our parents wanted us to marry. I have caught him many times dating other girls. He also does not share anything with me, I am not allowed to know how much money he makes, where he works, who he is talking to, I can’t look at his phone or computer. I am only with him for our baby. Everyone is telling me to leave him but I don’t believe in divorce and my husband knows that I don’t believe in divorce so he is pushing my limit to see how much patience I can give before I divorce him. He secretly wants a divorce but he doesn’t want to divorce me, he wants me to divorce him so he could tell everyone I was the “bad” one. What is the right thing to do?
Answer:
Alaykum salam,
Constantly not cohabiting with you, or not covering your needs, or abusing you are all grounds for divorce especially if you are both in agreement as to incompatibility. However, Allah Most High will create compatibility and love between you with some mutual effort in sha Allah, and a lot of patience and forgiveness. If that is your wish then recite Ya Wadud x100 daily and remind your husband of his everlasting responsibility toward dependents in the eyes of Allah as this is not a game.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
