Question:
I’m in luv with a married man. He is willing to take me as a second wife. I have also just found out that his wife is expecting a baby. My heart is aching, I luv him a lot & can’t imagine life without him but I don’t know if I will be able endure the pain of sharing my husband. I have spoken to my parents about him & they have refused for us to get married and have said, they will choose a spouse for me, & if I don’t agree to marry someone of their choice they will get me married to the guy that I luv but they will disown me. I am desperate for advice. I don’t know what to do in this situation. I luv him and can’t live without him. Plz give me a wazifa so that Allah makes our marriage possible with my parents being happy.
Answer:
Give your parents a chance to do what they think is best for you. If that does not work out they will let you marry as a second wife and will not disown you in sha Allah. Give them time to get used to the idea but give yourself time too.
You should also try to examine what is certain and what is uncertain in your life right now. Your parents love you, that is certain, and you love them, so cherish that and hold it dear. As for a potential spouse there is a lot of room for growth of mutual love and understanding, and a blessed life and family. Pain and jealousy right from the start are not good helpers.
Recite Ya Halim, Ya Karim, Ya Hafiz to the intention of ease and protection here and hereafter.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
