Question:
I’m in a polygamous marriage and don’t even no what my rights or my husband’s or his other wife rights are.
We are living separate I see him every other weekend.?
And he calls me once a day.
I am having a very hard time dealing with polygamy. I don’t even know what my rights are. I grew up in lutheran church so I am not even familiar with it.
I have asked him to please not speak about his other family to me in the nicest way I could. It makes me jealous and sad and very insecure when he talked about his first wife with me.
( were still very newlywed and I am very I secure in my marriage with him anyways, ?maybe after we were married for a while I wouldn’t mind so much cause maybe I would be more excepting but I am not right now)
He agreed. And is it in my rights to ask him that?
He also wanted to move me and my kids close by him. About a block away from his other family. ?I told him I wasn’t ready for that and I didn’t want to subject myself to the possibility of seeing his family.
I don’t mind living even in the same town just as long as there is enough distance so I don’t have to run into his family.
Is that within my rights to ask him that.
I mean for my own well being I don’t want to be super stressed a block away knowing that hes with her.
Please pray for me.?
Please also forgive me if I have offended you
Answer:
Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you. You are fully within your rights. Jealousy is natural. Ask Allah to fill your life with love and mercy which is the meaning of marriage. Keep communications with your husband transparent and gentle. In sha Allah it will improve.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
