Question:
Asalamualaikum respected Shiekhs,
I’m concerned about the youngest of my siblings, she is 16 years of age. She is completely of the rails and away from Islam. On many occasions I have tried talking to her and making her pray but she’s not interested. She is dating and committing zina. She knows my parents will never approve of their marriage as the boy is not a good match; he drinks, smokes and does not study. She has sworn on the Quran but is still continuing this shameful behavior. I know it is wrong to spy, but I have been having to keep an eye on her as I am the only person who can help her. It has come to a point where I have had enough. It would kill my parents if they found out about this.
Please help me as I do not know what to do anymore.
W salaam.
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Firstly, her swearing by the Qur’an is not accepted and it has no weight, so do not worry.
Secondly, get professional assistance from social services, counsellors, educators, mosques etc. They can assist the subject and advise the family (stakeholders) how to lend support and encouragement. We may be family members but we may not necessarily be aware of the causes or in the know how to deal with certain issues. There is all to gain for your family and nothing to lose in getting such help.
Thirdly, always make du’a for your sister. A loving and positive environment at home always helps maintain a strong family unit. A family that prays together stays together. You may recite Ya Quddus, Ya Salam, Ya Allah, and Ya Halim 100 times each daily, and Insha Allah she’ll change.
Abdul Shakur
