Question:
Salam Shayk sahab! I have been with a girl for 6 years. Many times we have committed zinna. She was a virgin! We have always enjoyed & lived life frivolously. I know I have sinned a lot but i have done tawbah n cried too! I have changed a lot and want to become obedient to Allah in every possible way & I know that marriage can help me to control my nafs! But now that I have chosen `ih dinas-swiratwal mustaqueem`, my girlfriend says I have become too religious and she is annoyed with me! I cant even leave her nor she wants to leave me because she tells me I have broken her virginity & its her honour! She is compelled to marry me she says we`re completely different in our way of thinking. I want follow deen, but she wants to follow a bit but not so strictly. What can i do Shaykh? Please help me.
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
It is your obligation to insist your wife fulfill the duties of Islam. This should be done by using gentle reminders as well as providing her with education about Islam as she is going to be the teacher of your Muslim children Insha-Allah.
Imam Senad Agic
Head Imam (IABNA)
The Islamic Association of Bosniaks in North America
American Islamic Center – Chicago
