Request:
Aslaamualikum Shaykh,
I am 2_ years old and I have been seeking to get married for the past 4 years. My family works really hard to find a spouse and then right after the first meeting with the guys family, things start going wrong and fall apart. Its a constant hurdle. We are never able to move beyond the first meeting. Either the boys family has a problem with the proposal and other times the boy was interested at first and is not anymore. I really am concered. Its been very disheartening because every time we have hopes that things might be different this time, it always never is. I know this is my test from Allah, but I don’t know how to plea to Allah to help me with this test. Jazakallah khair for your help
Response:
Alaykum Salam,
Continue with trust and good cheer, Allah will provide. But switch from working hard dunya-wise to working hard on cultivating acceptance of Divine Qadar for you together with unconditional dua. Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) would supplicate and supplicate and supplicate unsparingly and he forbade us to say I don’t understand why Allah is not responding. He is responding: because He is the one who prompts our hearts toward Him. So persevere and the best has not passed you but is yet to come.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
