Request:
Assalamu wa ‘alaykum ya Mawlana Hajj Gibril Haddad
I had asked this time about a girl that I wanted to marry her and the family requires that I get 3,000 in currency, a good job and everything, I can not marry her, 21,000 chanted “Ya Lateefu” but I think it is not the Allah’s will to marry her, but still find it difficult to forget her and continue my life, I know I’m in haraam for her to be dating, but how do I leave this haraam and forget her? There is a prayer for me to forget it at once and move on happy with my life?
Barakallahu fik hajj Gibril.
Response:
`Alaykum as-Salam,
At least her parents have no objection to your person since their requirements are all circumstancial. Sadly many requirements are purely material in our Muslim countries. A brother in your situation faced the same requests from his prospective in-laws and they even asked that he moved to their country as a precondition. He almost gave up but then his fiancee travelled to his country by herself and Mawlana Shaykh married them. After that, the parents accepted everything and the couple have lived together happily ever since. If such a scenario is out of the question for you it means that in sha Allah your happiness will be with another person.
You might not “forget it at once” but help others and Allah Most High will help you in any case, as the Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said: “As long as one takes care of his brother’s need, Allah will take care of his need.” He also promised that whoever is passionately in love but yet remains within the bound of the halal although suffering, is like a shahid if he should leave this life in that state. So do not even consider going into haram but rather trust in Allah and consider it your mission to pass this test in a way pleasing to Him and to move on.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
