Request:
Salam ya Sayyidi,
I have been married 5 yrs and have 2 kids. Due to influence on husband from in-laws, our relationship is ruined. He has anger problems and is very rude. He had an affair but I caught him so he left her. Now he is in another country and said is looking for another wife and will keep both. I cannot be ok with this! He is rude and mean and treats me like a door mat. I contact him daily, but he doesn’t. When I do, he seems irritated. I apologized for my mistakes, but he behaves as if him and his parents are not blame worthy at all. He also hit me once. He has female friends and I don’t like it. He hates me. Is there a way to put love in his heart for me again so we can be a normal family?
Response:
`Alaykum Salam,
Keep your distance from in-laws while respecting them. Try to fix whatever is making him angry. Leave the second wife issue to him, don’t fight with him but try to fight your own feelings of hurt and betrayal by drawing closer to Allah. He is the only One that can change everything for the best for you. Read the Salawat Nuraniyya of Shaykh Ahmad Badawi often. Make peace with your husband and try to increase intimacy with him. Build the happiness in you and in the family. In sha Allah everything will improve.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
