Question:
ASalaam..
I am in a big problem and if you will please help me or else I will go insane. I am one of the Mureeds of Master Shaykh Nazim Adil al Haqqani QS. To keep it short i was engaged with a boy from the last 11 years ,the boys name is [private] and he is also one of the mureeds of Master Shaykh Nazim Adil al Haqqani QS. He went for higher studies to UK and there he came to know about spirituality. We were getting married soon and our parents were preparing for our marriage. Before some 2 months he started his spiritual studies and told me that he will ask about our marriage to some spiritual person and now he is telling me that some person who knows about spirituality told him that if he followed this path then he should not marry and he cant marry me now as he has gone far into spirituality.
Does spiritual studies tell us not to marry. I am myself following Naqshbandi Tariqat and i don’t know what has come to him,who made him think so..I am suffering each moment,He says Allah doesn’t want us to marry, how does he know it? Please help me what should i do now? I am left in such a situation that i have reached the peak of committing the suicide…Please pray for me and show me the real path. Tell me what should i do now?
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Do not despair but trust in Allah Most High and persevere. The peak of spirituality is marriage between two pious persons and it is half of religion if not all of religion in our times. However, delaying marriage for over six months, not to mention 11 years, opens wide the door for the interference of shaytan and this is what happened. Recite x100 daily Hasbiya Allah wa ni`ma al-Wakil and x100 Ya Fattah ya Hafiz to the intention of reconciliation and marriage. The point he should know is that the Holy Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said that whoever shuns the Sunna of marriage is no longer his follower! And this is why Mawlana Shaykh Nazim emphasizes marriage and so many times said there is no spirituality whatsoever without it.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
