Question:
I got married last year and on the next day, ie on the day of my walima, I got to know that my husband is suffering from vitiligo and leucoderma .
He and his parents had hidden this very fact from me. I felt cheated and betrayed. My parents didn’t know about this fact till now but, of lately my parents got to know about my husband’s vitiligo from some other source and they cried very badly. They too felt cheated that my husband and his parents kept them in darkness. I just hid this fact cause I was intending to do good to my husband by keeping his secret in spite of me being in depression. Now i am 8 months pregnant with this guy….not knowing what to do??? Please help ……I am very much in need of your advice. Was it my destiny?
Answer:
You saw some beauty, qualities in him that attracted you and you married him. He and his parents saw qualities in you and may have been afraid of rejection and humiliation. His skin condition turned out to be a test for you and this does constitute a burden that requires strength and support. Allah sent you strength and support and will continue to do so in sha Allah. Your determination to hide this from others and to do good by your husband is a path to sainthood. The time for crying is past.
Tell your parents to focus on his good qualities like you no doubt have, such as loyalty, religion, goodness. Do they really wish you and your child to divorce him now, and find someone with perfect skin tone instead, who might on the other hand be arrogant? So keep good thoughts and trust in Allah. Your parents will eventually be more accepting and
they will help you with the care and support you need at this time.
Recite Hasbiya Allah wa ni`ma al-Wakeel daily x100. In sha Allah things will get better.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
