Question:
Salam,
I would like to respectfully voice concern regarding advice that is sometimes given to women having problems with their husbands/men like (https://eshaykh.com/family/marriagedivorce/who-is-the-problem/), (https://eshaykh.com/halal_haram/helpless-in-worldly-hell/), (https://eshaykh.com/family/dealing-with-injustice-in-islam/).
It is upsetting that a woman
1) who might have been raped isn’t told to report her rapist to authorities and to look for emotional counseling.
2) who is controlled and punished by her husband for taking a stance in their sex life isn’t told to find support from close family.
3) is advised to deal with her husband’s wandering eyes by becoming more sexually enticing.
I value and respect this website very much, but I wish your advice to women was more empowering/proactive, and that it gave women back control over their lives and bodies. You could recommend better communication with spouses, women can use ahadith to support their positions to husbands/family, and they can seek help/support from close family members.
Thank you, salam.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Victims of rape should certainly report the rapist to authorities and look for emotional counseling. As for confrontation with spouses that only results in anger or divorce, then the advice needs to be rooted in spiritual action.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
