Question:
Asalaam u Alaikum
My father has worked all his life; he does not talk to me except to put me down, be condescending or ask why i haven’t got a job. He was always working when i was young, our relationship has suffered to the point that i try to avoid him. He is never happy with anything i do and even after i started reading salaah and study Islam he discourages me by saying i should not only focus on islam but working hard in a job, even though he does not read salaah himself. I know that he may mean good, but i am slowly building up resentment towards him which will lead to me saying something to him about how i feel one day.
I would really appreciate if you could advise me on how to deal with this situation
Jazakallah Khair
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Insha-Allah Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani is praying for you.
Everyone of us has faults, and we often see the faults in others which we actually possess ourselves. Forgive yourself, and then you will find you have forgiven your father, insha-Allah.
Taher Siddiqui
