Question:
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Dear Shaykh Hisham,
My wife is wonderful, She is beautiful, keeps her Iman, cooks well, cleans everything, takes good care of the kids. She is mostly silent – another great blessing.
We rarely speak, except for matters of daily household functioning. She flinches and withdraws whenever I touch her.
We sleep separately, she with the kids. We have not been intimate for 5 years, since our daughter was born.
She never kisses, except occasionally on receipt of a big gift. She always turns her face away.
I accept her as is. I am happy to be in her presence, but I am now wondering if it may be that she has been abused in the past.
Why else be so withdrawn?
I do not push. I do not wish to make either of us uncomfortable.
Can you recommend any way to ‘break through’ this wall of ice?
Shukr,
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Recite daily 100 x Ya Sabur.
Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani
