Question:
AOA. My name is [private] my mothers name [private] boy name [private] mothers name [private] we both love each other and want to marry, but when I start asking about marriage that boy suddenly changed and said I can’t talk to my parents about you as they don’t give permission and we don’t do marriages out of our cast [private]. He beat me a lot of time as he said I can’t bear that anyone look at u but he is totally changed now after [private] years but I love him a lot I don’t want to get married to anyone else because I don’t want to give deceive to anyone else. He wants me with him for his satisfaction but not for marriage. Please do dua for me and tell me any wafiza through which he come to me for marriage.
Answer:
A`udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajeem
Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Raheem
Wa `alaykum salam,
Based on your description [i.e. he beats you and he wants you for his satisfaction, not for marriage!], as Shaykh Taher said in a similar post, “it would be better to ask Allah to remove your feelings for him and allow you to move on. To that intention recite Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji`un 70x daily.”
Below is an excerpt from Sultan al-Awliya Mawlana Shaykh Nazim Adil’s (may Allah bless his soul) suhbah, “The First Order is to Marry,” dated 8 September 2011:
Marriage is the first command of Allah Almighty and He Himself first ordered the marriage of Sayyidina Adam (a), and His command will continue up to end of the world! Now we are following Allah Almighty’s holy command and we are trying to follow that holy order to marry.
This world would be like a paradise if people followed that order, but Shaytan, the biggest enemy of Mankind, is never happy about marriage as he likes adultery. So he creates problems between people and that is the main cause of problems among Mankind and all nations, because people left the first command of Allah Almighty and are following Shaytan. That opens all troubles, sufferings, wars and every badness, because people are running after haraam, adultery; not following the clean way and the holy command of Allah Almighty! Therefore, I am happy tonight that my grandson was asking to marry according to the holy commands of Allah Almighty, as today most young people are running to commit adultery and they will never be happy here or Hereafter.
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