I wrote to you previously under two titles – “lover’s family” and “lost love”, about a man I loved who wasn’t Muslim, so I had to give him up. I am over 30 and live in a non-Muslim country. I continued to have dreams of him. This week, it has been one year since I said goodbye and I hurt so much. Yesterday, I had so many dreams again. In one dream, we were together and happy. In another dream, I saw his brother (with whom he is very close) and I don’t remember the details other than it was a nice dream. Please, why is this happening to me? Why can’t I just forget and accept that I can’t get married? Why do I still hold this man in my heart and why did he appear in my dreams?
wa `alaykum salam,
That is because you might be able to invite him or others to Islam, as the Prophet (s) said, “If Allah (swt) guides through you anyone to Islam it is better than the wealth of this whole dunya.” That might be your case, so keep trying and if he will accept, simply “Laa ilaaha illa-Llah Muhammadun Rasoolullah” is enough to begin with until slowly slowly he will do all his obligations.
Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani