Salam, I did istekhera about a man for marriage and we grew fondness for each other. Some events and complications, this guy already said “no”. On the7th night I saw my aunt asked my cousin to show me something they got from London –a pocket size Quran so beautiful and inside there is a little light can be turned on. 8th day, I saw my sisters and I were wearing beautiful dresses and the guy was there and he asked me to go for a swim in the ocean with him. The waves were so wild, still I went in the water with him, I told him “I can swim but am not a good swimmer…but I may not be able to return back to the shore” so we returned. After some time the sea was calm, sky is clean. Then I asked him whether he wanted to go for swim, seems reluctant.
wa `alaykum salam,
Wild elements signify a no-go and if he already said no then it is best to move on. Allah Most High shall provide you a suitable match insha-Allah.
Hajj Gibril Haddad