Question:
Please help me I am in a very bad situation my marriage is breaking down due to accusations my older sister has made against my husband. She has said that my husband has touched her in her back and is spreading rumours to my family and family are all keeping away from me and my home. No visits me and I’m alone and so depressed. I don’t know what to do? I asked my husband if this was true he and said yes, but not in the way my sister is saying. She hasn’t told me about it but is telling the family and everyone is is looking down at me. I hate being in this marriage. I hate my husband too and I want to leave him, but don’t know what I should do. Help me if you can please.
Answer:
The Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said he is more jealous than any of us, and he said that Allah is more jealous yet than him; yet he said that even if a man found his wife in bed with another man he would still need to fetch three more witnesses; and that man cannot take punitive action unilaterally. What about just hearsay? And what about something much less grave which, furthermore, is being denied by your husband? And your sister did not even speak with you, who are more principally concerned than anyone.
Therefore ignore the outside chatter until it dies down. It will not affect you or your marriage unless you let it so brace up and protect yourself. Say: Inna lillah wa inna ilayhi raji’un. Allah will reward you much more and the Prophet will be much more pleased even if everyone looks down on you. With patience, forgiveness and wisdom in sha Allah you are on the right path.
May Allah make your test pass quickly and turn a new page for you and your family and relatives.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
