Father disapproves of Marriage Proposal



My circumstances are complicated since I have been diagnosed with a condition which means I will be unable to have children.

Whilst studying in university a practicing brother sent me a proposal, (also a mureed of Shaykh Nazim). I informed the brother of my medical condition. Alhamdulillah he said that this does not concern him, as he is seeking a practicing woman to complete his deen with. We discussed the option of adopting/fostering and him/his family are open to ideas.

We both done ishtikhara prayer and received positive signs and decided to tell our parents.

His parents have accepted however, my father refused since the brother is not within the family/caste/village. I feel he is rejecting for wrong reasons.

Please enlighten me with your help/knowledge regarding this complicated situation. I just want to get married to this brother soon inshaAllah.

I look forward to your reply inshAllah.


As-Salamu `Alaykum,

The concept of marriage is not based on social necessity without which the enjoyment of life is not complete. The Prophet gave the greatest example of it in his own life. He said:

“The best among you is he who is good to his family, and, among you, I am the best for my family.”

May Allah Ta`ala grant all parents, daughters and sons the Hidayah to follow the teachings of His most excellent creation and open up our hearts. May Allah Ta`ala remove hypocrisy from our hearts and guide us to discard our ignorance and remove our pride of considering ourselves, our class, caste, language, region, community, nation, and families as being better than any other Muslim’s. AMEEN.

We are clearly told by Allah Ta`ala that all Muslims are one and no Muslim has a higher status than another, except with regard to PIETY. We are clearly told that “a person with even an atom’s worth of pride will not see Jannah“. May Allah Ta`ala protect us from such a fate by enabling us to put our knowledge into practice, ameen!

Imam Senad Agic
American Islamic Center – Chicago
Majlis #1 Head Imam (IABNA)

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