Lazy husband and father

Question:

My husband is religious and provides basic necessities at home which he regards as sufficient. I work too and help support myself, our 3 teenage daughters. He was never involved in disciplining the girls, never took interest in their studies and told me not to make them wear the veil when they reached puberty because “they will wear themselves when they become adults”. Daughters 1 and 3 are doing well in school but 1 doesn’t veil and is emotionally distant. 3 is a very good child (respectful, obedient, solehah). 2 has tattoos, smokes and keeps bad company. When we found out, he pitied himself “Why is she doing this to us?”. He takes me for granted, makes hurtful remarks, admires other women and hasn’t changed although I’ve spoken to him numerous times. I would like to leave this marriage. Will I be prohibited from entering Jannah if I do so?

Answer:

We don’t recommend you leave your husband as that will further deteriorate the situation in your family. Your daughters need you and your husband to be united more than ever before. If you raise even one daughter to be on the straight path you will get Jannah, but if you leave this marriage you will not accomplish much.

Imam Senad Agic
Head Imam (IABNA)
The Islamic Association of Bosniaks in North America
American Islamic Center – Chicago

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