Question:
Assalamualaikum
I posted my 1st question to you back in March regarding marriage istikhara. Since then, I have visited Molana Sheikh Nazim in Lefke and asked for their blessing for this marriage too. Please forgive me for appearing impatient. The rishta in question has been discussed within both families for years, but nothing formal. Everytime I have done istikhara it seems to direct me to this man and I feel drawn to him (and vice versa). I’m 28 now and there is still no developement. Both our families keep mentioning marriage to us but dont take any action as they are always busy in other matters. I’m being asked question by people why I’m single at 28. I feel I’m burdening my mehrams financially and emotinally. I want to go hajj but both my mehrams are unable to take me. Please advise me
Jazakallah Khair
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Since there is agreement on all sides, and blessing of our mashaykh there is no reason for delay. The intense formality of Middle Eastern and sub-continent weddings has become an impediment in implementing this so-important aspect of the faith. It is better to have your intended husband push for the marriage, even if only close family attending, and then do a fancy wedding later.
and Allah knows best,
Taher Siddiqui
