Question:
Assalamu alaykum,
I am my husband’s 2nd wife. He lives in other country with his 1st wife and children and visits me and I visit him. 1st wife is jealous and we have difficult time. My husband cannot support either of us, he is on benefit. He has narcissist tendencies, critical, moody, addiction problem (internet pornography). But he prays and goes to mosque daily, fasts etc but is against sufism. He also opposes us to have child now. I am reaching 40 in year and half, we dont have children together, I have 1 from my previous marriage. I am sad about it.
He is not able to share his time equally and when I talk to him about equality in sharia he does not want to listen. What should I do? I am Mawlanas murida.
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
From all what you said, we can conclude that your husband is not to have two wives as he is not able to support properly even his first wife. We suggest that you accept to be divorced by your husband so he can dedicate his time fully to his first wife. In this way you will be also free to find someone who will love you and give you a proper care you deserve.
Imam Senad Agic
Head Imam (IABNA)
The Islamic Association of Bosniaks in North America
American Islamic Center – Chicago
