Question:
Aslam o alikum
I want to get married (age:32) but the thought of a man getting physically that close to me caused me anxiety. I am a shy person. When I get very nervous my heart beats faster, breathing faster, palms sweat, my face turns red, couldn’t keep eye contact and I am sure i’ll start to shiver as well in case of mentioned situation. What should I do? If I can keep myself unmarried, is it right & how? I am in a stress/pressure due to these conflicting thoughts of ‘i should or i should not go for this contract’.
Allah hafiz
Answer:
Wa `alaikumussalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
Shyness is part of Iman. It’s normal for shy people to have those feelings, especially towards a man who is not your mahram. Nowadays the attributes of shyness and good manners has disappeared, but jumping to fulfill physical needs destroys happiness.
Do voluntary prayers as much as you can and recite Salawat daily with the intention of a good husband and blessed marriage, Allah will open the way for you.
Hajjah Faridah
