Question:
Asalamu alaykum Sheikh,
I have a very important question:
What does shariah have to say when the parents of some one fight immensely amongst each other. And when the father attempts to hit the mother and the child comes in the way and automatically to defend the mother raises his voice or pushes the father back with force. And from there the father says ‘your not my son, I don’t want to see you anymore.’ Now that person tried to defend the weak mother at that time. What will be the way out?
JazakAllah, please pray for my forgiveness
Answer:
Wa`alaykumussalam,
Parents have to avoid arguing in front of their children, needless to say even to fight. Both should talk and discuss ways to find solutions to problems mutually. When they are fighting in front of their children, they are denying the right of peace and love that the household deserves.
You may defend your mother and be firm, but do not harm your father either by word or action. Out of anger only has the father said such things, but in Islam one cannot sever family relations. Continue to build trust and love between each member of the family. Importantly, if they feel they cannot handle the situation, seek the counsel of learned Shuyukh and family counsellors immediately.
Abdul Shakur
