Question:
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim
Salam ‘aleykoum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh,
Since I’m around 16 years old, I decided to begin a relation with my mom (my parents separated i had around 2-3 years old and no relation with her after 4 or 5 years old, decision of my father, my mother is mental sick, from so far, before she met my father… ).
It was difficult for me to be in relation with my so “special” mother but in same time, i felt that it was what i have to do, in my heart, to have a minimum of relation with her…
I get married, and my husband after 2 times meet my mom, does want I continue to see her. I accepted his decision but I still dont feel completly in peace to stop the relation with my mom. Because I learned, since I become Muslim, how it’s important to take care of our parents. In same time, I understand my husband.
What should I do, please help me to do the best for everyone (my mom, my husband, my 2 child, my grand-mother in the side of my mother, etc)
Jazaka Allahou Khairan
Amina
Answer:
Your husband has no right in Shari`ah to prevent you from seeing your mother. It is your duty to see your mother and help her in any way you can. This is regardless of her being a Muslim or not, or being mentally capable or not. Explain this to him kindly and that you don’t want to oppose his wishes, but “Your mother, your mother, your mother” is the direct command of our Holy Prophet (s) and must come first.
was-salam
Taher Siddiqui
