Question:
perhaps my fiancee’s family is insincere, they stall me,
give me permanent new conditions and appointments for marriage. They already gave me a ok for easier conditions.
they broke their word! I am just not able to figure them out?
I asked my fiancée
to agree for
an islamic marriage without knowledge of her family(after
marriage we wont tell her family just to feel relexed and that we know that we are married
and that if it’s coming out that they have no choice than accepting a low payed job)
she said that wont be possible without the agreement of her family/oldest brother/waly may be her oldest brother is her waly
does a divorcee need the agreement of her family?
should I search a Sheikh to speak to them in wisdom?
(without ayat and ahadith)
her oldest brother pray the morning prayer after sunrise!
DO YOU HAVE A BETTER IDEA????
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
You are trying to fit into a traditional culture and you are a fish out of water. You are going to run into requirements and taboos that have nothing to do with Quran and Sunnah. Better YOU seek a wise shaykh and take baya` and then take from him the guidance you so desperately need.
And Allah knows best,
Taher Siddiqui
