Question:
Asc Wr Wb dear brother/sister
I’m a young female 23 years old, I lost my mother recently. Now I’m looking after 3 siblings, 14yr old , 15yr old & 18yr old. This guy and I want to get married. He went to his family and told them that he wants to get married to me, but they refused, because I’m looking after my siblings.
I really want to settle down with him and complete half of my deen and please my Allah SWT and my profet Mohammed SAW, by doing a Halal marriage.
Please help me. What should I do???
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Let your fiancee’s parents know that believers are protectors of one another. We should all strive to help orphans and widows. This is what Allah said:
And they feed, for the love of Allah, the poor, the orphan, and the captive. (Surah al-Insaan, 8 )
And this is what the Messenger of Allah (s) said:
The one who cares for widows and the poor is like those who fight in the way of Allah or those who spend their days fasting and their nights praying. (Agreed upon, also in Adab al-Mufrad of Imaam Al-Bukhari in chapter, “The Virtue of Those Who Care for Orphans”)
Imam Senad Agic
Head Imam (IABNA)
The Islamic Association of Bosniaks in North America
American Islamic Center – Chicago
