Question:
Assalamualaikum Shaykh,
I have been dating with a man for years and we are planning to get married but he wants me to stay with his parents and a younger brother which I refused. He still insist me to stay with them when we nikah. I believe that every wife deserve their own home and he keep asking me to prove him if there is any hadith saying that a wife deserve their own home and possible if they do not stay with their in laws.
Jazzakallah Khairan
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Allah Most High said husbands must lodge their wives where they themselves live and according to their means. However, he also made it fard to treat them fairly and not as employees and servants for himself, let alone others. With in-laws in the house it needs no demonstration that the wife’s rights are trampled and disrespected. Therefore, in the Fiqh of the Four Schools there is agreement that she deserves her own home and that she does not have to cook or clean for her spouse, let alone his relatives.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
