Question:
My brother is unemployed and does not have money for himself and so I frequently put money in his account. He sometimes buys cigarettes with this and I don’t like him buying that with my money. You can blame me for being possessive about my money but I don’t like it being used this way.
What should I do because he is very aggressive and hegemonically ‘masculine’ and I don’t like to put myself in the line of fire.
What do you recommend?
Jazakallah Khair
Answer:
If your asking him to agree to the precondition that you are giving him money on condition he not use it for cigarettes will not work, then read Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Rahim at the time of earning that money and at the time of giving it to him. That purity will help keep him away from harmful consumption in sha Allah.
Hajj Gibril Haddad